Some of you may remember when I posted some pictures I took late last year of A with a "combed out braid out". Well, I never got around to sharing this story. After reading this post on HappyGirlHair I really wanted to share it with you all.
Several days after I posted the pictures my sister called. Now, my sister lives 1200 miles away. She rarely gets to see my children but she does call from time to time to check up on us and ask me to upload pictures to my pages for her to see. I told her I posted some new ones of A on the blog. I gave her our web address and waited for the page to load.
Now, in my experience, silence is not a good thing. I know her internet connection could not have been that slow. So what was the problem?
....A's hair was the problem.
Me: Well? Do you see them?
Me: Ummmm....okay. Well? (waiting for her to tell me how cute they are! lol)
Her: Umm...I don't know. Her hair...
Me: What about her hair?!? (starting to get upset)
Her: Well, I prefer the wet look...
Me: What do you mean you prefer the wet look?!?
Her: Well she looks cute, but I like the wet look on her.
She said and few more things, I then proceeded to give her a piece of my mind and hung up.
You haven't seen your niece in how long and the first thing you decide to comment on is her hair? Seriously?
I know I'm probably totally biased, but I love A's hair. No matter how it's styled...I love it. Now, I really had to learn to love it, and learn to care for it, but you can't tell me nothin' about her hair now! I know that, no matter what is done to it, it looks great! Frizz, no curl definition, braids, puff, in my eyes it will always look beautiful.
It really dissappointed me to hear those words come out of my sisters mouth. The wet look? I mean seriously? What's so great about the wet look? What's wrong with big hair? What's wrong with some frizz every now and then? I mean, it's not like her hair wasn't detangled. It's not like it wasn't moisturized. I know this is probably not a look that most people would go for, but we loved it. I know my sister probably shares the same opinion as the majority of people out there. We got a lot of double takes that day. I just wish she understood. I mean, even after explaining to her why I was upset about her comments, she still didn't get it.
No matter what product I use in A's hair, it will NOT look like it does when it is wet. It will not flow down her back like it does when it is wet. It will not have a looser curl once it dries like it does when it is wet. Once it dries, it will go OUT, it will frizz a bit, and it will shrink up to her shoulders. That's okay....with me. Why not with my sister?
Forget what she said though. While she is entitled to her own opinion and preference, she can keep all that to herself. I know A's hair looked great. I like A's hair just the way it is, and so does she. That's all that matters.