tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7401110087633857998.post4063536640414403747..comments2024-01-01T11:28:30.248-05:00Comments on Beads, Braids and Beyond: "I prefer the wet look"Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger34125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7401110087633857998.post-14310476954795807202011-03-31T09:50:57.678-04:002011-03-31T09:50:57.678-04:00I don't know how I didn't see this when yo...I don't know how I didn't see this when you posted it. This post made me cry. I had a very similar experience with my father-in-law. When my A was about 18 months old, I sent him a picture of her that I thought was adorable. Her hair was mostly out, with two puffs in the front. When he responded to the pic, he said, " You need someone to teach you how to do her hair." I was devastated. People are going to have their hang-ups about what they think hair should look like. While things like that still bug me, I love my A's hair, and she does too!Shannonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17590464853663386352noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7401110087633857998.post-54812481521793954542011-02-09T21:00:36.613-05:002011-02-09T21:00:36.613-05:00Im completely new to your blog and found it on a h...Im completely new to your blog and found it on a hunt for hairstyles for my 4 yr old to select. Thank you thank you thank you! My daughter loves to wear her hair out and loose and she has a similar grade to A's. I was also concerned about the looks we would get when she goes out with her "wild" hair. I love it but am afraid she may get a bad reaction from another parent or child. I will continue to support her loose style and follow your tips and suggestion for moisturizing. Thank you again.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7401110087633857998.post-45512308903355813772011-02-08T15:13:26.876-05:002011-02-08T15:13:26.876-05:00unfortunately I can't say that I've had ne...unfortunately I can't say that I've had negative response to any of the hairstyles I've done on my daughter, now 4 (Alisah) or A1 due to me having a son younger age 2 (Aaron)or(A2). I've not ventured to letting her wear her hair out completely but once I do I'm sure she'll love it. You are absolutely correct though, in how the hair will shrink after it dries, Alisah has hangtime on her ponies, but when when wet it does hang down her back but I don't care if it shrinks, she's all natural and I always have her hair looking beautiful. I dont believe in a whole bunch of gel either. I pretty much have a grease and water baby wtih some occassional "Just for me Milky and Honey no frizzy." But absolutely no texturizers, etc. I did have a friend suggest that to me but I politely stated, I love my daughters hair just the way it is and I don't plan to put any chemicals in it that would change her grade. Kinky Curly, Beatifully long, not Nappy and Free (':Ms2Classy4yahttp://twitter.com/Ms2Classy4yanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7401110087633857998.post-35928214278726316672010-11-21T19:03:25.816-05:002010-11-21T19:03:25.816-05:00It sucks when hurtful comments come from family me...It sucks when hurtful comments come from family members...I'm 16 and I was doing my little sisters hair which is 4b and very similar to my own, complimenting it and commenting on how soft it is...And my dad had the nerve to say "I wish you had hair like Sharifa's. (another sister of mine, she's 3 and has that "good" 3a/b hair). A simple comment like that from her father totally deflated her mood and made her unhappy with herself. I wish societies standards didn't matter so much.<br /><br />But as a sibling I think I play a big part in her accepting herself. I remember when I went natural and she said to me, "Your hairs like mine again!". Even though I'm the only person in the family that seems to love our hair textures I hope she grows up to love her hair.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7401110087633857998.post-24210040533651973242010-08-05T03:33:11.170-04:002010-08-05T03:33:11.170-04:00I'm haitian/italian...The haitian i am is most...I'm haitian/italian...The haitian i am is mostly taino indian so my family looks more hispanic then "the haitians seen on tv" Every one in my family has long straight her because they perm it! My aunt when i was 7 told my mom to perm my hair and told her you don't want your daughter walking around with that "thick haitian hair with barettes and stuff' My mom listened and permed my beautiful hair similar to A's my hair broke off and in high school i decided to go natural..I hate how family's can ruin a child self esteem and not realize it, they think they are helping and dont want society to judge them but little do they know they are the ones who judge the most. Who would of thought my great grandmother used to try to make her naturally straight hair puffy would have children who dont appreciate who they naturally are.Tamar-Charmainehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18385687810754360445noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7401110087633857998.post-41838420951246920862010-07-18T13:58:39.886-04:002010-07-18T13:58:39.886-04:00I never had a problem, with people commenting nega...I never had a problem, with people commenting negatively on my daughter's hair when it's all out, but my husband(he's half black and pacific islander) side of the family(they are pacific islander) are starting to make comments towards my daughter's hair when I use barrettes and pony tail holders. They have told me before, that they like her hair out and think the multiple ponytails look "GHETTO" I told them it was insulting to say that it looks "ghetto, just because little black girls usually wear baretts and ponytails" It kind of hurt my feelings, that they would think negatively towards my daughters hair, and associate ponytails and braids as "ghetto" They did get their feelings hurt though, and I think next time they will keep their negative comments about my daughter's hair to themselves.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7401110087633857998.post-87063335362784239272010-07-05T16:12:56.042-04:002010-07-05T16:12:56.042-04:00My MIL made the same comment. She asked me to make...My MIL made the same comment. She asked me to make sure I make his hair look curly (wet look) when I bring him over to her house. That made me so furious!Mrs. Blessedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17489893285066876524noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7401110087633857998.post-58515390963754918372010-06-29T08:55:21.931-04:002010-06-29T08:55:21.931-04:00I Totally Agree With You, I Don't Understand W...I Totally Agree With You, I Don't Understand Why People Have Such Problems With Frizz, I Have Naturally Short Edges And I'm Forever Growing A New Layer Of Hair. I Will Always Have Little Curls Popping Up That Creates An Illusion Of Frizz. It Use To Annoy Me Back In High School And Sometimes Now When I Wear My Hair In A Bun W/O A Hat That I Had To Put A Little Product On It And Tie It Down For A Minute To Set It But That's Life. There Is Nothing Wrong With A Little Frizz You're Totally Right Her Hair Looks Gorgeous Either Way!beautywithcurlshttp://public.fotki.com/beautywithcurls/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7401110087633857998.post-71455077478469280842010-05-07T01:33:27.693-04:002010-05-07T01:33:27.693-04:00Wow, I had no idea people were so negative. I am n...Wow, I had no idea people were so negative. I am not mixed, I am black, but I have mixed people in my family and they all say how much they love my hair--whether it is thick and natural, frizzy, straightened or braided. The most common comment I get is "wow your hair is so thick, I want to steal it" My dad, NOT my mom, was the first person who took me to get braids when I was about 12. He has always been the main supporter of my natural hair, and I'm very grateful that I have the view that thick hair is beautiful now because of him. One single person's encouragement can really make a huge difference in a child's life. So all of you on here...keep encouraging and supporting your kids daily! Nothing else will matter if you do.Jazmine, 18, long 4a hairhttp://www.myspace.com/xxtumblelinaxxnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7401110087633857998.post-85832230901808300252010-04-30T04:28:38.279-04:002010-04-30T04:28:38.279-04:00I'm white and my daughters dads family is blac...I'm white and my daughters dads family is black. I do her hair on a daily basis and occasionally let her go with it out. I moisturize it an let it go. His family doesn't like it and calls her 'nappy headed'. I think it looks great! Keep up the good work, I LOVE your blog. its helped me A LOT! =)siressahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14118703595419688303noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7401110087633857998.post-30964983725395755042010-04-22T16:57:20.478-04:002010-04-22T16:57:20.478-04:00Yes..strangely enough non Black people love when I...Yes..strangely enough non Black people love when I let my childs here in puffs or free. My husband's fam on the other hands gives me instructions on how to train it and or grow it longer...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7401110087633857998.post-40663512629092433982010-04-18T03:00:20.443-04:002010-04-18T03:00:20.443-04:00I am so sorry she reacted that way!!! I have yet t...I am so sorry she reacted that way!!! I have yet to have a family member say anything negative but I often wonder what they are saying in private! We experience this crap a lot because I LOVEEEEE Aaliyah's hair natural, curly, and out as can be!! It often gets matted down because of her car seat and then she has a short part in the middle of the back of her head so it looks like a giant cliff and like I don't do anything with her hair but it is always detangled and always moisturized. I personally love A's hair out like that. Simply beautiful, In my opinion out is the most beautiful style.Kariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09275923974806801810noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7401110087633857998.post-23771357653949508352010-04-16T22:21:54.513-04:002010-04-16T22:21:54.513-04:00I love that look on A and I often let my girls whe...I love that look on A and I often let my girls where the same look and of course I always get "girl you need to comb those kids nappy hair" Seriously their hair is big and beautiful. My niece looks at my girls hair and she is 14 and she says she wish her mama would have never put a perm on her hair. I think mothers should wait until the child can say if they want a perm or not instead of doing it at a young agecesimmons06https://www.blogger.com/profile/14443403512985243269noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7401110087633857998.post-86781847251075493272010-04-16T19:08:24.011-04:002010-04-16T19:08:24.011-04:00I admire and respect all of you women and how you ...I admire and respect all of you women and how you are empowering your children; as a bi-racial adult I still get unreal comments about my hair and comparing it to my sister's texture (which is finer and looser than mine)...etc! At almost forty, I had to let my family know: GET OVER IT THIS IS MY HAIR and I am learning EVERYDAY to love it!!!! It's hard when those adults around you have been brainwashed and condition for soooo many years!!! A's hair is gorgeous ALWAYS!!!! Keep doing what you do...I wish all of our young girls had role models like you all!!!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7401110087633857998.post-7737262307797552812010-04-15T23:06:16.940-04:002010-04-15T23:06:16.940-04:00:( Why do people have to be so negative?? :(
Yes...:( Why do people have to be so negative?? :( <br /><br />Yes, we have comments here, too. Mostly from my mom. I try to make sure Q's hair is as "nice" and curly and non-frizzy as possible whenever my mom is around because I hate the comments that happen if it's not "just so". Or the random side comments I overhear her telling others later! About how hard and unmanageable curly hair is. Grrrrrr. How 'bout how Beautiful?!?!How WORTH IT?! How people with straight hair (myself) can NEVER have what people with curls have. Nothing can compare or compete with natural curls.Karli K.https://www.blogger.com/profile/13211990564137455533noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7401110087633857998.post-4315925300613856752010-04-14T19:28:15.539-04:002010-04-14T19:28:15.539-04:00I don't have any kiddos (yet), but I can under...I don't have any kiddos (yet), but I can understand WHY her words upset you. The "she looks cute, but..." type of comments ARE offensive. It's like saying to you that your daughter isn't perfect as is. <br /><br />You put time, effort, and work into making sure your cutie's hair is in tiptop shape to have someone that you care about to make those types of comments. You had every right to be upset.<br /><br />Unfortunately, not everyone will love your daughter's beautiful hair as you (and the rest of us) do. But that's okay. As long as "A" has a mommy like yourself who instills in her that she's beautiful, she need not worry about the naysayers or those who have something negative to say in general. It'll roll right off of her. :)KPhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17663912567517357721noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7401110087633857998.post-64481797153387407032010-04-14T10:38:44.598-04:002010-04-14T10:38:44.598-04:00You said and did the right thing...she looks beaut...You said and did the right thing...she looks beautiful!Shumpyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10870950558372677615noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7401110087633857998.post-69723493272610224522010-04-14T07:46:32.813-04:002010-04-14T07:46:32.813-04:00You know, you can't control anyone but yoursel...You know, you can't control anyone but yourself. If other folks have issues with something, it's on them. As long as you are comfortable with A's hair and texture and all of its other characteristics, I would not worry at all what others think even if those others are members of your family.honeysmokehttp://www.honeysmoke.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7401110087633857998.post-50041010065100560832010-04-13T14:11:39.523-04:002010-04-13T14:11:39.523-04:00I really like it when my girl has her hair out, we...I really like it when my girl has her hair out, we use headbands, bows, or flower clips. She likes it I like it, and we don't care what people say.<br />" What are you gonna do with her hair?"<br />" Ohhh she looks sooo, 'natural' its cute.."<br />" She has big hair!"<br />And what my girl has learned to say is "THank YOu"Lettyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01185795445506555199noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7401110087633857998.post-6414193849532292202010-04-13T14:08:07.748-04:002010-04-13T14:08:07.748-04:00It sounds like we all deal with this. Thank you al...It sounds like we all deal with this. Thank you all for sharing your stories. Hopefully one day we will not have to defend our children's hair.Beads, Braids & Beyondhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16792905761007587351noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7401110087633857998.post-87752117954378096162010-04-13T14:00:49.432-04:002010-04-13T14:00:49.432-04:00Yes! I get it all the time from my husband! He is ...Yes! I get it all the time from my husband! He is always asking me why I style the girls hair a certain way! Both of our girls have different textures but just like my hair, I'm accepting their natural hair. I just wish others could learn to appreciate it as well. All i do is explain to ppl & my husband that there are ppl out there who would kill for curly, kinky hair. We have to show our children that no matter how their hair is, it is ALWAYS beautiful! If we don't provide the foundation for our kids in letting them know that they are beautiful regardless, then how can they learn to accept themselves?LovelyLexi86https://www.blogger.com/profile/18155549460266673779noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7401110087633857998.post-82701460033305097282010-04-12T21:32:43.841-04:002010-04-12T21:32:43.841-04:00Sorry Nikki but it's the way people think chil...Sorry Nikki but it's the way people think children's hair should look. I was told I should give my kids a perm, blow dry, press. Just give them something that will make their hair straight and show their length. It's always from other people..."you need to cut their hair, how are they suppose to know they are a boy ..when everyone mistakes them for a girl,they are boys and boys should wear a low hair cut." I stop letting things others say about my children's outer appearance along time ago. They do not feed them, clothe them or give them the neccessities they need in life. When my oldest and second son attended school for the first time, I was told I would have to cut their hair or they will not be able to attend this school...well I talked to the law department at the board and believe it, they did attend that school. The principal told me she would fight me til the end. She had the nerve to ask me where do braids stem from, I told her their cultural background, she told me I was wrong... They stem from jail.dimpleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06557177823142241091noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7401110087633857998.post-44852554645162767622010-04-12T21:30:36.364-04:002010-04-12T21:30:36.364-04:00I'm not surprised by the ugly comments that yo...I'm not surprised by the ugly comments that you heard from your sister. Family or not, when it comes to something that isn't ordinary or the norm that people see everyday, everyone seems to have an ignorant, bias opinion. That's all it is, Ignorance. I have noticed here and there, a difference of reaction with my dauhghter N. (6 yrs. old) when her hair is braided or in a similar style, people will say how nice her hair looks. Then when her hair is all down and nautral with a simple headband they say nothing or look with that akward stair (I'm sure you know what I mean). Personally I could care less about what others think, but I can't get past how rude and forward some people are, (including family). I have learned to ignore things alot, however there are those times when you must speak up to defend and protect your little ones from these ignorant people.Kristihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04645634423841087513noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7401110087633857998.post-60241536557911548272010-04-12T21:15:47.457-04:002010-04-12T21:15:47.457-04:00My mom and sister in law (both white like me) have...My mom and sister in law (both white like me) have made comments about Shelbys hair stating they like it out and curly and are no crazy about the braided/twisted styles/barettes etc. I used to purposely let her hair our around them. Then I just got comfortable with having her hair in a style and they got used to it being braided/twisted/pony tails. If I asked them now, they will still prefer the headband/out and curly look...its kinda a good thing but it is a lot more work to maintain an "out style" than a twisted/braided one wouldnt you agree?<br />StaceMrs. Perfecthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07399304165990779573noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7401110087633857998.post-66898268196048531572010-04-12T19:52:40.809-04:002010-04-12T19:52:40.809-04:00On Easter I flat ironed my mixed nieces (ages 5 &a...On Easter I flat ironed my mixed nieces (ages 5 & 8) 4A hair for church and they got sooo many compliments. The BIG shocker was when my dad came to visit them and made a huge deal out of their straight hair. He kept saying how much he loved it and how it should be like that at all times. My mom and I were looking at each other like WTF. I was soooo surprised that he made THAT big of a deal about straight hair. I'm Black so this was their Black grandfather going coo coo over straight hair. I had to give him a mean side-eye for that.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com