tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7401110087633857998.post1758299406364836513..comments2024-01-01T11:28:30.248-05:00Comments on Beads, Braids and Beyond: Just say HELL NO Texture SoftenerUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger39125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7401110087633857998.post-35334868548079516392012-10-15T04:19:23.775-04:002012-10-15T04:19:23.775-04:00Alot of friends and family including me have belie...Alot of friends and family including me have believed that this product called "softner" is just that and i have advised a friend ti use it in her daughter's hair to "soften" up her hair to make it more managable...now i need to apologize to them both ...thanks for the infoAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7401110087633857998.post-85759711491447493422012-08-11T13:46:45.546-04:002012-08-11T13:46:45.546-04:00Thank goodness I found this post. Just bought this...Thank goodness I found this post. Just bought this at sally's and will be throwing it away!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7401110087633857998.post-56993201025409872762011-08-12T18:28:16.756-04:002011-08-12T18:28:16.756-04:00Iv'e been a quote unqoute natural for 8 yrs. I...Iv'e been a quote unqoute natural for 8 yrs. I have done the big chop,dreadlocks,twists, and a host of other creative things with my natural hair. What bothers me is the critism and pointing of the finger when a sister decides to relax her hair. I find it to be ironic how someone is always telling someone how unatural they are based on there hair preference. I have seen sisters with long flowing locks and a ton of unatural make up which looks hypocritical. I have also seen women with natural hair who eat any and everything. I am so tired of the snub nosing. Just because someone chose to embrace thier natural roots does not mean that they are more righteous or self informed than the next woman. I have seen natural women with unhealthy hair as well as women with relaxed unhealthy hair. Whatever is a persons preference is between them and them only and to judge someone base on what is growing out of the top of thier hair is unbelievably shallow.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7401110087633857998.post-22812144914295228222011-08-02T21:01:15.401-04:002011-08-02T21:01:15.401-04:00I can tell you from experience my daughter had her...I can tell you from experience my daughter had her first perm at 2 years of age, but I didn't know her grandmother put it in there, I was so mad. So I let her go to the hair dresser every week and found out that was not working her hair was coming out so bad because I didn't know how to care for it. So I let her hair grow out naturally. It had grown out in a years time to shoulder length. She has very course hair and it gets dry fast. So I decided when she was 5 years old I would try it again, now that I knew how to take care of permed hair, but little did I know her hair broke off again. It's been almost two years now since she had a perm. I will never ever put a perm back in her hair. Mothers I know your child's hair may look dry and may not seem the best hair, but leave it out their hair. It's very damaging. My daughter's hair is thick and getting long, it's manageable and I keep it moisturized by putting a moisturizer on it 2 or 3 times a week. Natural is beautiful no matter what texturer you have.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7401110087633857998.post-90740962486189054292011-08-01T02:25:17.084-04:002011-08-01T02:25:17.084-04:00i made this mistake once on my daughters hair(she ...i made this mistake once on my daughters hair(she is 12) a few weeks ago. I left it in as long as they said for really kinky hair and it got straight and she told me it burned after only a few seconds of having it on. She found this natural curl enhancer on the web called kinky curly and now i know that its my mistake for not using it. they are relaxers in disguise. I dont believe in kiddy perms any more. or no lye. After this we are ust going natural!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7401110087633857998.post-15342952048581112612010-10-05T16:51:01.293-04:002010-10-05T16:51:01.293-04:00Well I agree but I've already use this product...Well I agree but I've already use this product in my daughter's hair and I didn't like the results...so is there anything I can do to remove the chemicals???Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04071626319386560395noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7401110087633857998.post-43367740747531213682010-07-20T20:03:48.797-04:002010-07-20T20:03:48.797-04:00Omg.. i wish i read this post 2 months ago! I had ...Omg.. i wish i read this post 2 months ago! I had put the "just for me texture softner" on my 2 yrs old hair b/c i fell for the advertisement. Please is there anything i can do to save her hair from eventually falling off? Reading some of these comments iam now afraid of her hair eventually falling off. Please any advice i would appreciate. my email is stephaniebazo@yahoo. THXAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7401110087633857998.post-34092505029658579852010-07-04T19:52:30.015-04:002010-07-04T19:52:30.015-04:00all of you parents misunderstood the use of this p...all of you parents misunderstood the use of this product. You are putting all of the chemicals in your daugthers hair at such a young age, their scalp is way too sensitive. Their hair texture and scalf is not developed enough to handle ALL of the harsh chemicals in the liquid activator. Just use a liitle bit of the chemical and cream is the trick!!!<br />You only need to take 3 to 4 drops of the liquid activator along with only half of the cream, and half on the anti sunflower mixture in the cream, and the rest in the childs hair. the trick of this is that the application time and the process time should altogther take no more than 4 min.(you are putting the application on the hair not the scalp)<br />Then rinse and wash. This product worked well on my childs hair texture is still the same natural way the only difference is that it is detangled and soft. ~also for conditioner put hair mayonnaise from the organic root stimulator in their hair and leave in for 10 min.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7401110087633857998.post-67734676049484395292010-06-25T18:15:08.836-04:002010-06-25T18:15:08.836-04:00I'm so glad that i read this. i almost bought ...I'm so glad that i read this. i almost bought it to put in my little girl's hair and in mine. i will certainly try detangling with fingers first.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7401110087633857998.post-64685520157255114252010-06-06T09:53:38.458-04:002010-06-06T09:53:38.458-04:00Anonymous at January 2: When you are grown, you ca...Anonymous at January 2: When you are grown, you can do whatever you like to your hair, as long as you know the options and the pros and cons of each. Children don't have the luxury of knowing all that about their hair. The most healthy way of maintaining hair is keeping it natural, period. Unfortunately, people have no idea how to maintain natural hair, even though it can be as easy as properly maintaining pressed or permed hair. <br /><br />Straightening a child's hair at that age speaks volumes to that child about what you think about their hair, and the fact that you don't think that what they are born with is up to par. This is where the difference lies from products that don't alter the hair texture but help in maintaining natural hair (like conditioners and moisturizers). While straightening products subconsciously tell the child that their own hair is unmanageable, the other products say quite the opposite. <br /><br />It is important for a child to build esteem in their hair in its own natural state before exploring other options. That's how they truly become other options and not "requirements to fit into society."<br /><br />Anonymous from January 7th:<br />I'm not sure what you mean by coarse. There's is actually no such thing as a "coarse" curl pattern; coarse is normally used to describe the thickness of a strand. Kinky/"nappy" is the furthest you can go as far as texture.<br /><br />That said, there is no hair type that "needs" a relaxer. My sister has hair that people incorrectly referred to as "coarse" (it was actually just highly textured and dense) and that people often put the super relaxer on from childhood. She is now natural and having as easy a time of it as anyone else. It just takes education, which, with sites like these, is easier to get these days :)Mystianoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7401110087633857998.post-16431144580428145262010-05-16T19:22:03.736-04:002010-05-16T19:22:03.736-04:00I just bought this at Dollar General yesterday :(
...I just bought this at Dollar General yesterday :(<br /><br />Thankfully I haven't used it on my daughter and will be throwing it awayDawnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14401666737151125782noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7401110087633857998.post-75329749589608925602010-04-24T01:36:36.945-04:002010-04-24T01:36:36.945-04:00Let me start by saying I do not believe a child un...Let me start by saying I do not believe a child under the age of 16 should get relaxers, I have a one year-old and I will not relax her hair. However, I do not agree with some of the comments about women with relaxed hair. I have been relaxed since I was very young (my mom's cousin did it without her permission)and my hair is very thick and long (when I let it airdry most people believe it is natural), so to say we are all balding, etc... is unfair. I think the difference is when most people get relaxers they believe they do not have to do anything extra to the hair, this is not true, I still have to retain moisture, take my time while detangling and wrap it at night. Just as natural women have to learn we relaxed women also have to lear what is best for their hair. I do wonder sometimes though how my hair would look natural and I love natural hair on other women.I also love this blog It had given me so much help in doing my daughter's hair .Laurenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15203726385251890024noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7401110087633857998.post-86434605055900672162010-04-07T00:10:54.602-04:002010-04-07T00:10:54.602-04:00I will NEVER use that Just for Me Texture Softner ...I will NEVER use that Just for Me Texture Softner again!!! I let my two girls get this put in their hair for Christmas. One is 8 the other is 10, they wanted to wear their hair down. I paid $120 every two weeks for them to get their hair done at the salon and as of April 3, the day before Easter by 10 year old's hair is completley gone!!! She has a short little afro all over. Not only that I also put this product in my hair. I have not had perms, relaxers, straightners etc in my hair for 10 years. My hair immediately starting coming out as I was combing it through. All I can do now, it just keep apologizing to my baby and pick out her little afro and keep it mosturized. Luckily, it really looks good on her. But I HATE this product. I absolutely think it is false. I think the little girls on the box never got this put in their hair. I will never subject myself or my babies to this torture again!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7401110087633857998.post-1168717224531197002010-03-28T19:02:02.938-04:002010-03-28T19:02:02.938-04:00wow thats interseting you put it all out there lik...wow thats interseting you put it all out there like that because even at the age of 15 which i am now i was tempted to go out and buy this product. Question: do you know a product that can smoothen out kinky/ coarse hair without those chemicals. natural hair can be tought at times especially when your in high school and everyone around you rocks the same look.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7401110087633857998.post-62920156044063293412010-03-13T14:08:58.360-05:002010-03-13T14:08:58.360-05:00Thank you so much for this blog and this post! At ...Thank you so much for this blog and this post! At 5yrs my daughter had very long natural hair that I ruined because I totally fell for this texlaxer hype. It looked great at 1st ("wow, I didn't realize her hair was waist length!") and really did make wash and go easier but then after a few months all her beautiful hair started breaking, thinning and falling out! I was beyond devastated! I felt bad that not only had I exposed my child to what was really a product that contained harsh chemicals early on, but I was also hurting her self esteem when she too realized her hair was not as nice as it used to be. This horrible product has since grown out of her hair (she's 7 now) and not only will I NEVER use anything like this on her hair again, but am vocal about the true effects of using any chemical products to alter children's hair texture. Its not worth it and this company is lying about this product! Your blog and this post would have helped me greatly in the beginning and I know it is helping other moms right now! Thanks again!Annicka J.https://www.blogger.com/profile/13941142702038111668noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7401110087633857998.post-79503673582152396682010-03-13T02:36:30.273-05:002010-03-13T02:36:30.273-05:00I wish I had seen this blog about 2 years ago. I ...I wish I had seen this blog about 2 years ago. I used the texture relaxer (under the advisement of my hair dresser) and it has been horrible. My daughter swims weekly and the two things put together have been deadly to her hair. She has been growing it out since August and most of her hair is doing well. The sides and front are still badly broken off, though. I just found your blog and I can't wait to read more!Farrahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05755050215775486704noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7401110087633857998.post-14553488306684884942010-02-18T11:23:54.567-05:002010-02-18T11:23:54.567-05:00I'm a parent who decided to add the product wh...I'm a parent who decided to add the product when my daughters was 8 after she begged me & the Dominican Hair Shop I attend said they wouldn't style it without the texturizer (sp). My daughter went from a curly bush to straight hair down to the middle of her back. She got attention from EVERYONE, for example, was the face on her school brochure etc. She went twice a year. About three or four times in... OMG... chemicals mixed with the heat from the dryer mixed with limited was to style her hair totally started thinning her hair out in a way that made me cry & freaks me out to this day. I was looking at old pictures of her & decided we are both going natural. I have to set the standard for her. She also will never go back to that shop. Now I'm starting to pay attention to balding women who still perm their hair. She's about 1/4 back to the way she way. :0/Johttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15898902952002345880noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7401110087633857998.post-19313110024347949322010-02-16T21:42:04.811-05:002010-02-16T21:42:04.811-05:00To the anonymous morons that are trying to say tha...To the anonymous morons that are trying to say that the product is good or it doesn't matter if you use it makes maintaining hair easier. You sound like a bunch of babbling idiots sorry to say but you do. There are other ways trust me. And she is not saying that you hate your hair just because you use it, NikG is just trying to give you facts to make BETTER choices because in the long run your daughter's hair will eventually look ugly and fall out if you keep using it. And for the moron who tried to say that NikG puts stuff in her daughter's everyday so what different does it make you sound dumber than the others. What she puts in her daughter's hair does not permanently change it. And she is putting products to maintain her daughter's natural hair. Hair is supposed to be moisturized naturally and that is what she is doing. Do your research as NikG did before you talk smack.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7401110087633857998.post-44284497316476090742010-01-23T04:42:07.773-05:002010-01-23T04:42:07.773-05:00I was always hated this kind of things your daught...I was always hated this kind of things your daughter's self esteem DOES start early to know that their natural hair is beautiful. I have super straight hair and my daughter super curly hair and she knows both are just as beautiful, we are all different. And I agree with you Just Say NO!Lettyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01185795445506555199noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7401110087633857998.post-80491222074177125692010-01-07T15:09:12.002-05:002010-01-07T15:09:12.002-05:00But what if the child does not have curly or kinky...But what if the child does not have curly or kinky hair? What is the mom to do! I have curly hair so I do not deal with that issue but I am curious? There are some ppl who do not have curly or kinky hair. They have really coarse hair and a relaxer is the only option for them to manage their hair in an easy manner. I am not talking about curly or even kinky hair but coarse hair. What are they to do? I agree curly and kiny hair is easy to manage once you learn to do it but what about other types?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7401110087633857998.post-79186193430621539812010-01-02T19:18:25.164-05:002010-01-02T19:18:25.164-05:00There is many things that black and biracial women...There is many things that black and biracial women and girls do to their hair that changes it's natural state. From the texture softner, to relaxers, to hot combs, and flat irons, and even changing the curl pattern it's self. Then their is weave and wigs. Do you feel all of these things are wrong b/c basically the all promote not keeping hair in natural state and most are making hair more Euro Asian like? But then what about the product you use in your kids hair everyday to make it softer, neater, etc. Wouldn't that also be telling your kid that their hair isn't good enough in it's natural state (like the white and Asain kids)and needs something extra to help it look better. How do you explain to your kids that there is something wrong with changing how their natural hair looks when the majority of black or biracial women around them also changes the way their natural hair looks? Do you critize the majority of black women and allow your child to think the better b/c they don't change thier hair type? I don't get why women aren't allowed to just love who they are while wearing their hair how ever they would like.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7401110087633857998.post-11762302379548659722009-12-18T11:55:04.017-05:002009-12-18T11:55:04.017-05:00I wholeheartedly agree with everything you wrote! ...I wholeheartedly agree with everything you wrote! Build self esteem by implying that their hair is hard to manage and needs to be changed! That kills me.fashionablynappyhttp://www.fashionablynappy.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7401110087633857998.post-36731985025942328202009-12-17T19:24:14.270-05:002009-12-17T19:24:14.270-05:00I use this product and I love it. More importantly...I use this product and I love it. More importantly my daughter loves it. She still has beautiful curls, but her hair is much easier to comb through it. She use to cry every time she had her hair combed, now she can even do it herself if she wants. The reality is curly hair is beautiful but it's also much more work. In America we don't have loads of time for our hair. It's pratical to make it eaiser to manage. Cutting your hair short makes it eaiser to manage but that doesn't mean you hate long hair. It's no diffrent.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7401110087633857998.post-87330529676015222102009-12-08T14:08:04.446-05:002009-12-08T14:08:04.446-05:00I am truly thankful for finding this site (from a ...I am truly thankful for finding this site (from a post on LHCF). I agree with all of your thoughts about the JFM relaxer. It is sad that people are being fooled through the marketing of this product.Angienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7401110087633857998.post-48811244399750740352009-12-07T00:26:17.966-05:002009-12-07T00:26:17.966-05:00love reading this post. Not so long ago I saw a co...love reading this post. Not so long ago I saw a commercial on TV for this product and for a brief momment I considered using this. I asked hubby what he thought and he refused immediately. I think, some people like me don't really understand what a "relaxer" really is and the extend of the damage a product like this can do. I no longer want to use any of these products and reading your post only reasures me that I've made the right decision.MaRiTzahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07890538335887662742noreply@blogger.com